{"id":116734,"date":"2019-02-17T15:20:43","date_gmt":"2019-02-17T19:20:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/?p=116734"},"modified":"2019-02-17T15:22:40","modified_gmt":"2019-02-17T19:22:40","slug":"west-hollywood-gay-mayor-accused-of-looking-for-sex-on-the-dating-app-grindr-during-public-meetings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/?p=116734","title":{"rendered":"West Hollywood Gay mayor accused of &#8220;looking for sex on the dating app Grindr during public meetings&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><!--more--><div id=\"attachment_116735\" style=\"width: 810px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550176972-utx8soi914-snap-image.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-116735\" class=\"size-full wp-image-116735\" src=\"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550176972-utx8soi914-snap-image.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"800\" height=\"463\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550176972-utx8soi914-snap-image.jpg 800w, https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550176972-utx8soi914-snap-image-300x174.jpg 300w, https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550176972-utx8soi914-snap-image-768x444.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-116735\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Mayor John Duran, at a 2013 news conference in West Hollywood, reacts to a Supreme Court decision favorable to gay marriage. (Irfan Khan \/ Los Angeles Times)<\/p><\/div><\/p>\n<h1>Gay mayor accused of sexual harassment as #MeToo reckoning comes to West Hollywood<\/h1>\n<p><!--more-->By HAILEY BRANSON-POTTS<\/p>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p data-page=\"1\">For years, Mayor John Duran has been a public avatar for West Hollywood\u2019s cheekily sexual culture.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>From the City Council dais, he joked about wearing gold lam\u00e9 underwear and announced a public forum on anal cancer named Booty Call to Action. But he was also accused by another councilman of looking for sex on the dating app Grindr during public meetings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Even after the city paid $500,000 in 2016 to settle\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.latimes.com\/local\/california\/la-me-weho-sex-culture-20160411-story.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a sexual harassment lawsuit<\/a>\u00a0brought by Duran\u2019s former council deputy \u2014 whom Duran hired after meeting on Grindr and having sex with him \u2014 Duran was reelected.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>For many, it seemed West Hollywood was the town that #MeToo forgot.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>But now, amid\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.latimes.com\/entertainment\/arts\/la-et-cm-gay-mens-chorus-accusations-20190205-story.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">new allegations of sexual harassment<\/a>\u00a0against Duran by members of the Gay Men\u2019s Chorus of Los Angeles, some West Hollywood residents and politicians are saying enough is enough and that times have changed. Three of the city\u2019s five council members have\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.latimes.com\/local\/lanow\/la-me-ln-john-duran-weho-council-misconduct-allegations-20190212-story.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">called on Duran to resign<\/a>, saying he has become a distraction.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Protesters are planning to converge on the City Council meeting Tuesday to call for Duran\u2019s ouster and seek action in another scandal:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.latimes.com\/local\/lanow\/la-me-ln-ed-buck-west-hollywood-20190110-story.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">the recent deaths<\/a>\u00a0of two gay black men in the West Hollywood apartment of Ed Buck, a white, wealthy Democratic donor and LGBTQ activist. For several years, Duran worked as an attorney for Buck.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Last week, Robert Oliver resigned as vice chair of the city\u2019s Public Safety Commission in protest after other commissioners declined to condemn Duran.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cIt is time that the #MeToo movement comes to West Hollywood,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Duran, 59, has refused to step down, describing himself as a proudly sensual gay man who lived through a sexual revolution colliding against a prudish #MeToo movement that\u2019s too quick to judge. Bawdiness is just part of who he\u2019s always been, Duran said, and he\u2019s not going to change now.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cThere\u2019s a culture clash going on,\u201d the mayor said. \u201cIf somebody expresses himself or herself sexually, that doesn\u2019t make it harassment, per se.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cPeople are thinking that anything sexual is harassment because somebody feels it is unwelcome, but you have to open your mouth and say, \u2018No, I don\u2019t want this.\u2019 \u2026 Otherwise, how are any of us able to navigate the sexual politics of 2019? I just think there are bigger, more complex issues at play, that everyone needs to take a timeout and slow down. It can\u2019t be accusation equals guilt.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Three current or former members of the Gay Men\u2019s Chorus have accused Duran, the longtime board chairman, of crude sexual comments and engaging in unwanted touching.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Chorus member Brian Phillip Nichoalds said Duran slipped his hand inside Nichoalds\u2019 waistband and made sexually charged comments. Joey Firoben, a former member, said Duran made inappropriate comments to him too.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Jason Tong, 23, who was both a singing member and part-time employee of the chorus, said that, in October, Duran came up behind him and put two fingers inside his waistband, near his hips, in a changing room before a show in Glendale. Tong said he turned around and made eye contact with Duran, who silently left the room.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cI sort of went into a shocked state,\u201d Tong said. \u201cIt all happened very quickly, five seconds or so. \u2026 I went to the next changing room over and told a couple of my friends what happened. Only then did I realize I had been violated by someone.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Tong said he was upset Duran was trying to blame a generational difference and that he \u201cknows lots of older gay men who definitely understand the idea of consent.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cNo matter how old you are,\u201d he said, \u201cit\u2019s very easy to ask first.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Oliver, 29, said the accusations against Duran went beyond \u201cgay culture\u201d and colorful language.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s his generation that made it possible for me to be an out, proud, liberated, married gay man today,\u201d Oliver said. \u201cBut it\u2019s my generation\u2019s responsibility to take the lessons that we have learned collectively as a society and bring those to our LGBT community and teach his generation.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>On Tuesday, City Council members Lindsey Horvath, Lauren Meister and John D\u2019Amico posted similar statements to their individual Facebook pages calling for Duran to resign.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cOur City cannot focus on the work of the people when we have to address new and numerous allegations of sexual misconduct, including whether our Mayor used his title to solicit sexual favors,\u201d Horvath\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lindsey.horvath.82\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">wrote<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>City Atty. Mike Jenkins said state law did not allow the council of a general-law city to remove one of its members.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Duran told The Times that he thought his colleagues violated the state\u2019s open-meeting law, the Ralph M. Brown Act, by coordinating the statements, which were all posted within four minutes of each other. Jenkins said in an email that \u201cthe statements reflect the individual views of each council member and are not the result of a coordinated effort.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Councilman John Heilman is the only member who has not publicly addressed the allegations.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_116737\" style=\"width: 810px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550275783-8zk9hurshl-snap-image.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-116737\" class=\"size-full wp-image-116737\" src=\"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550275783-8zk9hurshl-snap-image.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" srcset=\"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550275783-8zk9hurshl-snap-image.jpg 800w, https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550275783-8zk9hurshl-snap-image-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/la-1550275783-8zk9hurshl-snap-image-768x432.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-116737\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Former West Hollywood Public Safety Commissioner Robert Oliver resigned in protest of fellow commissioners&#8217; silence about accusations against Mayor John Duran. (Kent Nishimura \/ Los Angeles Times)<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Duran has been on the council since 2001 and has served four terms as mayor, a largely ceremonial title that rotates annually.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>In\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/John.Jude.Duran\/posts\/10156997164521796\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a Facebook statement<\/a>\u00a0Wednesday, Duran wrote that gay people fought hard in the 1970s and 1980s for \u201cthe right to maintain sexuality in the midst of plague and to come out on the other side into marriage equality. \u2026 Am I the only gay man in town who uses bawdy sexual humor? Or says inappropriate things? Nope.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cSo, will I resign? Those of you who know me \u2014 well know the answer. HELL NO.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Jeremy Goldbach, director of the Center for LGBT Health Equity at USC, said a certain level of off-color and gallows humor was part of life for many gay men who survived the AIDS crisis and that one of the defining characteristics for the LGBTQ rights movement was a willingness to push the boundaries on sexuality.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p data-page=\"2\">\u201cBut I don\u2019t think the historical experiences in the LGBT community somehow provide permission for the way somebody acts today,\u201d he said. \u201cWe\u2019re in a different time now, especially when people are in positions of power. \u2026 In those situations, it doesn\u2019t matter if you think something is offensive. What matters is the experience the other person is having.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Steve Martin, a former West Hollywood councilman who is gay, said gay elected officials had to \u201cfollow the established rules\u201d because they represented everyone, not just the LGBTQ community.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cWrapping yourself in the flag of gay sexual liberation is just a dodge for irresponsible conduct,\u201d Martin said. \u201cElected office is a public trust; this ain&#8217;t no nightclub, this ain&#8217;t no disco, as the song goes. Bathhouse conduct is not appropriate at City Hall or in any professional setting.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>In October, Mike Gerle, the city\u2019s events services coordinator, formally complained to West Hollywood\u2019s human resources department about Duran. Gerle said he was working at a city-sponsored protest at West Hollywood Park with a giant balloon depicting President Trump as an infant when he heard Duran make a sexually charged comment to a photographer lying on the ground, saying he was \u201calways on his back.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Gerle, 53, also formally complained that Duran made inappropriate sexual advances toward his boyfriend, Dennis Gleason, on Grindr during a city-funded trip to a National League of Cities event in Washington, D.C.,<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>in 2018.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>In Grindr screenshots provided to The Times, Duran asked to come to Gleason\u2019s room. Gleason declined, saying it was \u201ca little too close to home\u201d and that he worked for Los Angeles City Councilman Joe Buscaino and was dating Gerle.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Duran wrote: \u201cOh my god. I didn\u2019t realize that. Disregard!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>A few minutes later, he wrote: \u201c[Oral sex] shouldn\u2019t count. But Gerle would Hate me.\u201d A few minutes later, he asked again for a sex act, then wrote, \u201cOh come on. That was slightly funny.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Gerle, a former International Mr. Leather, said he and Gleason had an open relationship and that his boyfriend could have sex with whomever he wanted \u2014 but that Duran crossed a line because he kept pursuing Gleason even after Gleason indicated he was uninterested.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s about consent. \u2026 He has this sense of entitlement that because we\u2019re gay, \u2018I can do whatever I want with you because that\u2019s our culture.\u2019 He\u2019s decided that\u2019s our culture. He doesn\u2019t understand that every gay man gets to decide what interactions he has. You don\u2019t get a pass.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Gleason, 37, the policy director for Buscaino, said Duran\u2019s statements about a generational divide \u201csounds like the same thing, to me, as \u2018locker-room talk.\u2019 \u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>In a Feb. 11 letter to Gerle, the city said his complaints were unsubstantiated and that Human Resources \u201crecommends continuing to limit your interaction with Mayor Duran, per your request, without diminishing your job responsibilities or opportunities for advancement.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>In\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/wehotimes.com\/a-defiant-mayor-john-duran-speaks-let-me-confess-the-obvious\/?fbclid=IwAR3XfL79rcHDWvwkXm20OCSbqXRuhlBkjLiuRmGJ37M_003IxwsyCmfRMjw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">an interview<\/a>\u00a0with the WeHo Times, a local news website, Duran dismissed his accusers from the chorus. Duran said that before Tong made a complaint, he had never heard of him.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cI looked him up on Facebook and of course, he\u2019s a skinny Korean kid with pimples on his cheek. \u2026 Look at this guy. It\u2019s just not happening. It\u2019s not credible,\u201d Duran told the publication.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>API Equality-LA, an Asian and Pacific Islander LGBTQ rights organization,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.apiequalityla.org\/pressrelease\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">condemned<\/a>Duran\u2019s \u201cvictim-blaming and racist statements,\u201d saying \u201cAsian men have long been discriminated against in gay communities.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Estevan Montemayor, president of the board for Christopher Street West, the nonprofit that produces L.A. Pride, said Duran\u2019s comment was \u201cvery Trumpian.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>\u201cHe has dismissed his accusers because of the way they look and who they are. It\u2019s the same tactic. It is deplorable,\u201d said Montemayor, who said he had long considered Duran a friend.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>Tong said he felt like he was being body shamed but that \u201clike every skinny, queer person of color who happens to be relatively young, it\u2019s not like I haven\u2019t been victimized like this before.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"card collection-item card-border-bottom card-border-bottom-thick card-border-bottom-dark\" data-type=\"text\">\n<div class=\" card-content \">\n<p>And besides, Tong added: \u201cI\u2019m not Korean; I\u2019m Chinese.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>___<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/www.latimes.com\/local\/lanow\/la-me-ln-weho-sexual-scandal-protests-20190216-story.html\">https:\/\/www.latimes.com\/local\/lanow\/la-me-ln-weho-sexual-scandal-protests-20190216-story.html<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-116734","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116734","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=116734"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116734\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=116734"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=116734"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stateofthenation2012.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=116734"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}